Self-Care is Not Selfish

After coming off the 'high' of my first therapy appointment in almost two years, I figured it was time for yet another {short and sweet} post. So if you're reading this, you also need to hear this:

SELF-CARE IS NOT SELFISH!

I know I've written about this topic in other posts, but I truly believe in this statement (though easier said than done). It may sound ridiculous, but even during my therapy appointment, the entire time my brain was spewing off self-criticisms like "You don't need this! You're not 'sick enough' or 'worthy enough' to receive therapy." My negative self talk was literally trying to tell me I needed to earn therapy...how ridiculous is that!?

But after an hour of both tears and feeling refreshed (those of you who go to therapy will understand the irony), I decided to spend the rest of my PTO day doing exactly what I want. I'm scheduled to attend a yoga class for this afternoon, I'm going to the chiropractor, binge-watching Hulu/Disney+/Netflix.....and while yes, I do have to get an oil change, I plan on spending my 45 minute wait reading a [non-work related] book. Heck, even writing this post is giving me a sense of accomplishment!

My point is - self-care is not just bubble baths and face masks. Sure, it CAN be that if it's something you enjoy...but for me, it's time alone without a toddler attached to my hip that really excites me. It's getting to pick what I want to do without having to worry Eli is getting into something. It's an afternoon nap if needed, or therapy, or taking my medication....basically, it's getting my needs met, but also filling up my cup so I'm not running on empty.

Sooo...what's self care look like for you?

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